4 or 9 behaviour?

I'm new to Enneagram and I've been obsessively researching it these past few days. I've narrowed myself down to either a 4 or 9. I'm very moody and emotionally self-indulgent. I will lash out at family members when I'm feeling emotional or defensive, but I wouldn't do that to a stranger (except in extreme circumstances). I can swing between thinking I'm gods gift to the earth to then feeling very insecure and wanting external validation. I spend quite a lot of time fantasising about having a successful career and receiving accolades (if I'm a 4 I think I'm a 3 wing). I care about what other people think about me. I'm a bit of a snob and I pride myself on my good taste and aesthetic eye. I am completely obsessed with beauty in all forms and surround myself with it as much as possible. I am empathetic and will always be there to listen to people and encourage them to see the value in themselves. I enjoy seeing people come into their own. I like my home to be cosy and a safe haven so I'm selective about how I decorate my home and who's allowed in it. I'm an introvert and homebody. Because I have felt different my entire life I am very open to people from all walks of life and I'm very interested to hear their unique perspectives. I find pleasure in learning new things. I can be lazy and hedonistic. I don't like being told to do things that don't align with how I see myself. Overall do you think I lean more towards a 4 or 9? I see traits of both in myself and what I wrote above. Any help is appreciated. Thanks.