Confused about the text to tommys mum

Guys idk if i’m just tweaking because i only managed to watch the bare bones of the tubbo dream convo stream but i just feel like the ‘harrassment of tommy’s mum’ keeps being mischaracterised and dream isn’t doing a great job of defending himself.

obviously first of all tommy depicting it as ‘dream harrassed my mum during one of the lowest points of her life and tried to drive a wedge between us’ makes it seem so bad when in actual fact 1) dream had 0 knowledge that tommy’s mum was going through a divorce and 2) after reading the message that dream sent i just don’t understand how it would’ve possible driven a wedge between tommy and his mum

but my main query is that i feel like one huge piece of info keeps being swept under the rug.

the way it’s described and especially when tubbo is like ‘how would you feel if i messaged your mum dream’ does not at all take into account that tommy’s mum is a big twitter personality and what dream messaged her about was mostly TO DO WITH HER. it wasn’t like he randomly texted her to snitch on tommy, she was directly getting involved with the drama and dream messaged her about her own involvement. yes he did mention is gripes with tommy but i feel like that message would never have been sent if it wasn’t for her involving herself and beefing with dream stans and also just being public on social media.

does anyone have any counter arguments to this? genuinely just wondering because i feel like im going insane because i didn’t see dream mentioning this in his talk with tubbo and i feel like it’s pretty crucial.

please note im not super super informed and if anyone does have disagreements please lmk im not trying to be really combative just trying to get more of an understanding of the situation