The biggest problem with dating isn’t you.

It’s not how much you might spend or not spend on microtransactions. It’s not how often you get shitty dates or how many people ghost you. Love is a roll of the dice. I dated miserably for 2 years straight before I met the loml on bumble. He is everything I didn’t even know I wanted in a partner and more. We are a year and a half together now and see each other about every other day; text every day, run errands together, talk about our future.

July will be two years together and the longest relationship I’ve ever had. I was pretty much only dating to fill up my time and loneliness until I met him on bumble and then in person and we just clicked over cocktails. The conversation was lively since we’re both neurodivergent to some extent and both creatives in our fields with some success. We’ve come from shitty previous partners and are both in therapy and want to work on ourselves not just FOR ourselves but for each other. We both love our cats who look very similar - even though they hate each other. Someday we might move in together but we want to wait it out. He moved cities to be a few blocks away from me about 6ish months ago so we could see each other all the time. And even when we have lulls in our relationship where we’re just a bit bored with everything and I wonder if the honeymoon phase is over, soon enough I hear a song on my playlist and think of him on my drives to the grocery store and feel so warm inside. That’s how I know I’m in it for the long haul.

Remember. You’re increasing your odds on dating apps. It’s a way to show who you REALLY ARE to the dating pool around you. So be real. You don’t want someone who can’t handle the real you. Last night, my bf said that several girls made a face at his beat-up car before he met me. Well, I had a shitty car too when I met him. I was also unemployed and depressed after walking out on a traumatic work environment. We supported each other and he was promoted to full time with benefits and a raise. I found a job that allows remote work, great benefits and pay. We’re both STILL artists in our fields. It’s amazing what support does in a relationship. Seek longevity and love first and success WILL follow.

It’s not all for nothing. Just don’t let corporations get greedy with you - your person will come when the universe allows it to happen. Take breaks when you need to and put yourself first ❤️ the biggest problem with dating isn’t YOU - it’s just your patience.