To everybody who has been dumped…

To everybody who has been dumped I have something I’d like to say.

You’ve done your absolute best and you need to pat yourself on the back for that. You may or may not think it at this given moment, but trust me. You’ve given it your all.

Everyday that goes by I’m sure is a hurdle. You cry, it’s hard to sleep, you feel hopeless, alone, tired and exhausted emotionally, betrayed, thrown away, and treated like a dog. Everyday that goes by you think of this person and feel like things were left on a cliff. There was no closure. Your closure was them walking away.

I’m here to tell you that you’re everything. You’ve proven what it means to be an amazing person. You’ve proven that you have what it takes to stay even when things get tough. And although I may not know the reasoning for your heartbreak, I know you wouldn’t be hurting if you hadn’t given it your all.

It’s okay to grieve, cry, lose your appetite, it’s okay to think about everything and lose yourself in the moment, it’s okay to try living life alone and realizing you might have a sudden breakdown. It’s okay to let everything out because it shows you’re alive, You’re still breathing, and you have an opportunity to rise back up. Getting over your heartbreak starts with processing it.

Somebody has gotten up and made the choice to walk out of your life. It doesn’t matter how much icing they try to cover on their reasoning or how mutual or fancy they may tell it to you, the bottom line is he/she made the choice to leave. It’s a CHOICE and they chose not to love you anymore. And they may have chosen to replace you as well. This is not your fault! and you should not feel discouraged by them leaving you. It doesn’t matter what they did or how they did it, but know they have selfishly caused you pain that you now have to deal with on your own.

You now have to deal with all the crap that person has thrown back at you and left you to deal with on your own, they left you with crushed future plans, broken promises, a broken heart, broken memories, everything was left for you to pickup. Had this person genuinely cared about you they wouldn’t have dare left your side from day 1. Love is about going through the thick and thin. It’s about the ups and downs, it’s about knowing there may be a problem with somebody be it mental or whatever and STILL they chose to stay with you to support you. If somebody gives up they are no longer worth loving.

Today you’re here reading this post alone, maybe on your phone or computer hurting. You’ve joined this group because you need to find somewhere to connect and talk about your feelings or seek advice. You came here because you’re in need of mending what’s been broken.

I want you to take care of yourself. And rise up. Don’t let the person who brought you to your knees depict who you are. You tell yourself who you are! A breakup is about finding who you are again. Realizing that person is no longer there. Realizing you were born in the world alone and happy. And you can be happy again! Don’t let the person who left you have the honors of making you be the person they wanted you to be. Painting you as such a bad person. By the end of this post I want you to rise up again. And set out on a journey to find who you are. Love yourself, go out there and do something spontaneous. Create a new identity to yourself and leave the old you behind. Show the person who left you broken what they truly lost. Show them your true potential. Disappear from social media, disappear from the audience, and get to work. Go to the gym, join a sport, get back in shape, go back to school, start a new business, etc. whatever it takes. Whatever your dreams are, get after it! In the mean time take care of yourself. You don’t need love to mend your broken heart or hookups or anything. You just need you and yourself right now. Show them all what they chose to walk away from. And watch them burn while you’re shining. The best revenge is the one where you don’t have to say a word and your actions shine. Prove them all wrong.

By the time all is said and done. Somebody far greater is gonna be waiting for you right around the corner and you don’t even have to try. Keep your head up!