Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country.

First off, he dumped me. But after years of singleness and self reflection, i wasn’t a good partner. We were completely NC for those years apart. He even moved cities. He dumped me day after taking me to my favorite cafe next to my apartment. He ordered dish I loved and complimented how much he loved it. I bought the ingredients same day to learn to make it for him. They rotted on the table for a month as I mourned the break up.

All those years apart, I never stopped thinking about him even when I moved on. Anger mostly. Then acceptance. Sadness and regret. But acceptance again.

He reached out first and I ignored it. Then months later I reached out. Basically small talk. Vague apology. Then silence. We decided to meet up for drinks on new years. I was super nervous. I brought a gift for him : a book on something in his dream career. It was my olive branch.

We spent dinner talking awkwardly. He randomly asked me to go away for the weekend with him. I said yes. We both weren’t planning that. We also both ended up contracting a fever at the same time that weekend and it forced us to just huddle up together in bed sick. I realized I still loved him. It was horrendous the feeling of loss again. But somehow we kept tiptoeing around each other. Not together but talking slowly again.

One day I got angry and just asked him what are we doing. He said calmly, “we are together.” We just weren’t sure still. Because I wanted to move to my dream city across the country. He wanted to apply to his dream job across the other side.

Long story short, he got the dream job. And they sent him to my dream city. He asked me to come. I finished up my life in current city and met him 6 months of LD. (Extremely hard)

We are now living together. Happy. In my dream city with his dream job.

I made him the dish he loved from the cafe he took me to before the break up lol

Neither of us are perfect. It’s so hard in many ways. But he’s mine. And I’m his. Our life is lovely and I adore him with all I have. The break up is still hard but becoming more a thing in the past.

I hope I never have to come here again. I pray all of you find your happiness. If it’s been years and you’re still thinking about them, probably means you should maybe reach out. But make sure they’re not on market.

We just did a 4 hour hike up to see the mountains the other day. And then got fried chicken and beer after. And watched movies all night after a hot shower. It gets better guys.