Transfer Advice
Hello,
I am currently miserable at my school and am looking to transfer places. For reference, I have a 3.89/4.0 GPA and majoring in psychology and criminolgy (but may switch to criminal justice, pre-law, legal studies, or sociology if crim is not offered). I think I have a pretty solid resume for having lots of leadership and work experiences, on campus and home. There are many reasons why I want to transfer. 1. My academics are too easy. I am on the track to graduate in 3 years with two majors, a minor, and a certificate. 2. My school is a cult, and everyone admits it. These are honestly the rudest and most selfish people I have ever come across in my life 3. This is a very big party school. I know that most colleges have a lot of partying and students drinking, but that's the entire culture here. It is very difficult to find a group of people who will actually be friends and do things with you other than party and drink 3-4 days a week. 4. I need better friends. I've had so many people within the now starting two years of being here pretend to be my friend and not really be. I've been excluded from more things than I have been invited, and I have noticed that the friends I have made in class only talk to me for help on exams or to get notes. I'm sure that this sounds like a lot of complaining, but being here has been really bad for me mentally and physically. My school is in a very rural area and not requriing the vaccines, so COVID and symptoms have been going around like crazy (at least 2 students died from it and students have admitted that they don't care). It's just a very toxic atmosphere for me here and I am sick of crying myself to sleep every night.
I have a couple of questions:
- What is the transfer process like? I'm looking at statistics, but I want to know from the student perspective. Are there opportunities for transfers to make friends and fit in at school, even as a junior in college? I'm not too concerned about the academic side as I really like school and learning and I'm pretty good at managing that. I'm just worried that I will end up sitting in my dorm alone all of the time. Which speaking of, what is the housing like for transfers? I know some schools have a transfer dorm, is that offered here? I'd like to be on campus because I feel like that is an easier way to connect with others and the school, especially not knowing the area well enough to find somewhere off campus.
- What do you like and dislike about the school? Before I make my decision if I am accepted, I want to know if it is actually worth transferring in to. Let me know about why you guys do or don't like it here
- What is the party scene like? The school I'm currently at has a top ranking for party schools. I know that it is a normal college thing to go out and get drunk. For health reasons, I can't drink in general, but have gone out a couple of times with friends while they get wasted. I don't mind maybe like once a month, but people at this school do it almost daily (there are some people who do it multiple times a day, everyday). I'm kind of an introvert, and love nights in playing games, baking, watching Netflix, etc. I like to have fun and make memories, I'm just not into going out and getting drunk all of the time. I'd like to surround myself with like-minded people, but that is just not possible here. How easy would it be to find good friends who feel the same as me? Or is the student life just always going out?
Sorry that that was a lot. I would truly appreciate any feedback that you guys can give me. This school was actually not my first choice, but a last minute decision that appeared to be the best (which I now know isn't the case). I would really like to turn my college career around and be happy. If I end up staying another year for the degrees or to catch up on the year I lost from COVID, I'm fine with that. Again, I just really need to get out of here. Also, would it look bad if I took a gap semester in the spring before coming in the fall? I'm not sure if I can last here any longer mentally. I may take some community college classes, but that may be too many credits to transfer and a waste of money.