Use of Possessive Pronouns

I just wanted to comment on something interesting that I’ve noted. There is a lot of use of the possessive pronoun “mine” for past partners. The way it’s used implies ownership over an object the same way one would claim ownership over a thing. I’m sure members of this community have suffered abuse that is outright dehumanizing as well, much much worse than language used to describe someone in a reddit post. My point is not to complain but to bring attention to it. To address something as “mine,” because it’s used to denote nouns, is to internalize it to a degree as it becomes a possessed object.

I don’t think moving on is forgetting, quite the opposite as I’m sure you all know. You gotta acknowledge something for it to be moved past, it has to exist. That being said, why incorporate it into who you are? I’m not talking about the actions that were done to you, the abuse you’ve all suffered, but the people themselves. Even the use of “My pwBPD did ___” connotes a much more distant object relation as it’s used to describe, not possess the object, as opposed to “Mine did ___.”

Worst case scenario, by changing the language you use to describe your experiences you take the moral high ground over your abusers. Best case, you change your language and actively change how you see the world and your feelings towards it, in effect actively working to heal from your traumas. I hope this doesn’t offend, and I wish you all the best!