Are they always so lazy and entitled?

My pwBPD has to be one of the laziest, most careless people i know. If i didnt know any better, i would say a 9 year old has more autonomy than she does, which is saying something. She says its because she wants proper roles and responsibilities in the relationship, but i have a hard time believing this. What makes it frustrating is she has hundreds of demands for what i need to do, but if i even ask her to do one thing, there's a very high chance it will never get done. It makes relying on her for anything incredibly difficult, and close to impossible