When did you realize they’re a Narcissist?

For those who have been through it and done their research, what red flags told you that they had NPD rather than BPD?

For me, it was her lack of empathy (only fully realized it in retrospect) and her normalization of “emotional blood sport” (meaning that seeing me suffer meant she was winning the game).

Curious what y’all have experienced and understand about this spectrum.