Did anyone here experience being sick and their pwBPD still makes it all about them?

I was literally covered in blisters and in nagging pain since I got shingles a couple days back but during our night video call, my pwBPD literally cried and make it all about them. I told them not to cry that night (yes, they cry every fucking night) and they did. When will they ever stop making every single thing about them? Like, can I be sick and not be an emotional punching bag for you even for once??