How good are you in banter?

I noticed I never engage in banter with anyone.
no matter how close my friends are to me.
I don't know where's the line between being rude and teasing, banter, etc...
I'm totally incapable of banter.
I think it's one of the reasons my friendships aren't deep enough.

What I'm wondering about is it a trait of autism, or am I just traumatized??