Just a poll: have you mastered your O?

My partner had a good friend over this afternoon for lunch and quality time. During the visit, I was only in and out of the den they were in (to bring snacks etc, and to periodically hang out with them). During a few minutes when I was cleaning up a few things in there I overheard their conversation and was shocked at what I was hearing.

My partners friend, John, was talking about how he came home from a work trip and his girlfriend initiated intercourse. He finished kind of quickly after being away from her for a week, and was exhausted. I guess she doesn’t finish from PIV so he has to manually finish her.

He said she doesn’t always know what she wants or is able to really direct him in how to get her there so he just manually stimulates her until she’s close, and it sometimes takes over an hour. After driving 7.5 hours and being in a military field training for over a week, he just didn’t have the energy (valid IMO) to do all of this, and according to him he did let her know he was tired multiple times prior to her initiating.

I’m sure we all know where this is going, but he finishes, she gets up to clean off in the shower, and when she gets back, he was asleep. She got pretty upset and basically ignored him the next day. He doesn’t know what to do.

I asked him if she is able to get herself off (shocks me that it takes him 1+ hours and she can’t direct? The man is an athlete/triathlon trainer and military instructor the man can take direction like I’ve never seen…), and he told me she never masturbates. Ever.

I don’t talk to many women about stuff like this so I thought this sub might be a good place to pose the question:

What are your expectations for a man? Should he be able to just figure it out or have you taken the time to figure it out on your own so that you can simply add a toy during PIV or at least direct your man on how to do it?

Is her inability to get herself off common? Or is it a one off?

And besides “talk to her about it” which he is planning to do, what other advice would you give him?