People challenging your dating standards?

I was out with a new homegirl yesterday, and I drove her to my favorite coffeehouse. As we were leaving, I told her that one of my new dating rules is that if a guy tells me that he's a homebody or if he's never gone into a coffeehouse, I immediately ghost him.

My new friend pushed back on that, stating that I wasn't giving the poor guy a chance. I explained that I'm a pretty outgoing and adventurous person, and any time I talk to a guy who has never even been to a coffeeshop, it's always a challenge to get him to do anything else. And even when I talk to those kinds of guys early on, they always assure me that they'd love to go on fun dates, but they never do. My reasoning is that if you're in your 40s or 50s (my preferred dating range) and were never curious enough to walk into a local coffeehouse, then you likely aren't one who steps outside of your comfort zone to try something new. Either that, or you don't have friends around you who encourage you to do new things. Either way, I'm not interested.

My friend countered that I could possibly be the woman who introduces him to new things that he enjoys. I responded that I'm not interested in showing a middle aged man how to engage in fun activities.

I know my friend meant well, but I was really triggered by her challenging my dating standards. When I was younger, I grew up believing that it was my duty to try out nearly any man and give him a chance. And I showed them all nice things and they all had a great time, but none were ever appreciative of me lowering myself to be with them. I ultimately ended up used, discarded and resentful. Since then, I'm unapologetically standing by my hard and fast rules of new men. I'm in my 40s and refuse to spend another second trying to raise a grown man.

On another sub, I was deeply down voted when I told a guy that him getting drunk and throwing up while at a party while there with a woman was an immediate red flag.

As women, should we verbally push back on people that challenge our dating standards, or quietly letting them think what they want, while we hold firm? Also, why does it seem like no one pushes back on a lot of b.s. dating standards that many men proudly cling to?