Had a perfect second date, but…

I (F28)met this man(M31)online and the first date went well. We had lunch and then spent an additional hour walking together talking. Our second date was on V-Day. He unexpectedly(he never mentioned the holiday) showed up with a gift for me and we hugged. I had one for him as well to his surprise. We then spend two hours bowling and then we get something to eat. Everything is going really well. It was very fun. At the end of the date, we’re walking to our cars about to say bye, but I still wanted to spend a little bit of time with him so he suggested we sit inside the car and listen to music(it was late and all stores were closed).

It’s freezing and we decide to hug each other whilst listening to music. Honestly, I feel as though I messed up sitting in his car…at night due to inexperience with dating and lack of discernment. My mind was thinking of it innocently, while he may have gotten a different idea.

Anyway, It’s great at first and the vibes are good, but then he asks if I wanted to possibly go to the barracks(he’s military). When I said no, he asked if I would be comfortable with getting a hotel. Again, I said no. So by that point, I turn my body to the side and sit up a bit while he’s still hugging me. I’m a bit thrown off but tell him I had a great night and that I have to go. We give each other one last hug and then part ways.

I know this may sound dumb, but again I have no experience at all with dating. Is this proof that he’s only after one thing? Despite making it clear he is dating for relationship.

We haven’t kissed, only hugged each other. And in the car, we basically cuddled, and he wasn’t touching me in inappropriate ways. Just my shoulder, waist, and neck.

Did I mistakenly make it seem like I would be open to hooking up(something I don’t do)? Quite honestly, his question turned me off especially on a second date. I mean….is that normal? Again, I also feel like it’s my fault for wanting to hangout just a little longer.