Update texting with ex

So I started counseling my wife adamantly refused, counselor suggested few things all of which I've tried. Romantic getaway, candles soft music, offers of massage, datw night tried it all told counselor. She said need to get wife to come in. Tried talking to wife about no intimacy again and ask please go to counseling I even offered to go to our minister for counseling. Wofe got really upset and we had a really bad fight about the counseling. Wife finally broke and told me the reason she no longer wanted sex or intimacy was that she was having an affair with the minister. I said ok packed bunch of my stuff in my camper and rented myself a lot in campground last night. Both my wife and minister have been calling and texting all day. Haven't answered either 1. Been thinking about sending email to the congregation exposing the affair.