I oversexualize myself too much to make people stay

Hello. I'm currently in a depressive state, and one of the things I’ve realized after reflecting on myself is that I tend to oversexualize interactions with others.

Whenever I meet someone with the intention of dating or building a long-term relationship, our conversations usually start off slow and normal. But when I notice the other person losing interest or getting bored, I feel pressured to take the lead. When that doesn’t seem to work, I start flirting in a sexual way, which often leads to me sending pictures or videos.

For a while, it feels good because the other person becomes more enthusiastic about talking to me. But deep down, I get sad because I feel like they’re only interested in me for what I’m offering physically, not for who I am as a person. It’s like they’re staying because they expect sex to be part of the relationship, and I worry they’ll leave if I don’t continue being that way.

How can I build a genuine connection where both of us can have normal conversations and truly get to know each other? I’m genuinely curious because I’ve never experienced a relationship where someone valued me for my personality or heart.

I know this might sound vulnerable, but I’d really appreciate kindness in your responses as I’m trying to figure this out. Thank you.

edit: I read all of your comments and will start looking for a therapist. I realized that I need to work on myself first to understand why I do this to people I meet. Thank you to the people who were honest, direct, and gentle with their comments to me. I am taking everything into consideration.

To the guys who are in my DMs asking for pictures, you guys are horrible :)