AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend after she resigned from her job?

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) moved in with me two years ago, and at first, everything was going well. We both worked at the same office where I was her team lead, and we were both earning well above the industry average. Fourteen months ago, she decided to quit her job after clashing with our manager, who can be a jerk to all employees except a select few. I supported her decision, thinking she needed time to figure things out. But since then, things have become more complicated.

She’s been doing the same amount of housework she used to do when she was working, but no more than that. It worked before because we both had demanding jobs and understood each other's efforts. However, now that she’s not working, I’ve asked her to take on a bit more of the housework. Every time I bring it up, she gets upset. I’m the one paying all the bills, and while I’m not struggling financially, it’s been stressful carrying the full load. Whenever I mention her getting a job, she gets angry and stops doing any housework for a few days, telling me she’s "not a maid" and that she’s just between jobs.

After months of this, I got frustrated. It’s not really about the money—I just want her to contribute in some way again, either financially or by helping out more around the house. I’ve been hoping she’d get back on her feet and share the responsibility with me. Reading about other people in similar situations made me realize how much it bothered me, and I decided to end things when the situation didn’t improve.

I didn’t just leave her hanging, though. I moved out, found a place of my own, and left her enough money to cover rent and groceries for the next two months. I told her that after that time, she’d need to figure things out on her own.

But now, some of my friends are saying I’m the jerk for breaking up with her using work as an excuse and I shouldn't care whether she's working or not because "You're a man". For that I argued "Does that mean she should do the entire housework and should never work because she's a woman?". I got called sexist for this while my friends were the ones who started the sexist argument by starting with "You're a man".

While I am not the one to share my stories to the internet, I am sharing this story to get the perspective of outsiders on this issue as women not working is not that rare in my locality as many become housewives here. So... Am I the jerk for breaking up?