AIO or I’m just stupid and can’t follow a conversation?

I worry a lot about being avoidant. I’ve read they’re the most traumatizing people to date and I don’t want to do that to anyone. But idk. This isn’t the first time I’ve been confused over text, but it is the first time I’ve tried to get some clarity. And it didn’t work and now I’m paranoid that this person I’m dating has something rude they want to tell me but won’t…