He lied about a Vasectomy: Update

So, I posted last night about how I(22F) got fooled by a guy(37m) into having unprotected sex. Since the comments went insane on the original post I figured I’d provide an update and some context.

I met him at work. He was a friend of a coworker. We hung out as a group and he and I bonded a bit over some mutual hobbies and world views. He was charming and charismatic. It had been two years since I’d been with anyone(I have two prior partners) and I wasn’t sure I was ready to try again. But he pursued me respectfully for like six months before I agreed to a date.

I didn’t sleep with him on the first date. But I didn’t make the consensual decision to have protected sex with him a few times. This was ONLY after we had gotten tested. I saw his results with my own eyes. He pulled them up on MyChart, so I don’t feel as though he lied about that. The sheer honesty and openness is what led me to believe wholeheartedly that he was telling the truth about the vasectomy. I didn’t know there was a degradation pattern to the effectivity of it. I didn’t know there were tests. I’m also on the most effective BC there is outside of abstinence and tubal ligations/hysterectomies/other invasive medical procedures in that vein— Nexplanon, a little bar in the arm.

I thought it was safe and I never had had sex without a condom. I think my curiosity made me more susceptible to being convinced, and I got duped. Plain and simple. The way he spoke to me was NOTHING like the way he had for the last half a year.

I blocked him immediately and felt crazy about it.

With all the comments aimed at me or urging me to take action I took the time to think on it and this is what I’ve done.

I’ve gone to the authorities. I’m not a cop stan and never will be, but it’s the route that’s best, not for me, but for the next women he will do this to. I’m not confident my mental health will be able to handle this, but he needs to know this isn’t acceptable behavior, and he can’t get away with it.

I got tested. I have another test in a month. Plan b taken just in case the birth control and the pull out method didn’t. And I have therapy scheduled. I’m taken care of. And he will be, too, soon, in whatever manner the court and the public eye will manage.

To those calling me a wh*re and such—I hope none of the women close to you ever come to you for comfort when they’ve been hurt. People deserve better than you.

So that’s my update. Thank you for the advice.