Thinking about what my bf said after sex

Somehow my first post deleted so sharing again

my bf knows my real account so i had to create this one. For context I am 25F and he is 26M.

Something kinda wild happened the last night. I was with my bf and during sex I had this moment where I realized how much the emotional connection makes it feel so much better. It wasn’t just physical it was like everything clicked, and I felt this intense closeness to him, more than just the physical act itself. Felt like our souls connected and intertwined. This feeling during the act made me orgasm multiple times. Afterward, I brought up the topic, and he responded by saying that physical attraction is what really drives him. He looked at me and emphasized this point again. I felt sad, but when I expressed my feelings, he dismissed them, saying that I was overthinking it. He reiterated that physical attraction is his main focus. Honestly, after he said that, I felt completely out of sync with him like a sudden distance between us. For me, the emotional connection makes everything feel so much more intense, and it’s what makes me feel close to him. And then I started overthinking... What if I get fat or somehow out of shape? It triggered my insecurity. Right now, I’m a gym person, and my body is pretty toned, but what happens if I change? Would it affect the way he feels? Can you really separate the two during sex? Or am I just overreacting and overthinking it?

Edit: After reading all the comments I realized I forgot to mention the main thing. We’ve been together for a year, and his attention and care toward me are on and off. Some days he’s super affectionate and caring, and then other days he doesn’t pay attention. It didn’t bother me much because I figured no one’s perfect in a relationship. Until the other day that this happened and it really threw me off, and now I feel confused and don’t know how to take it.