AITA for falling out after my wedding?
I had a fall out with a best friend a few months after my wedding. (Bridesmaid)
Long story short she moved away and since moving she has never really involved or asked about the wedding planning once I had gotten engaged.
When I got engaged she said she was happy for me but couldn’t help but get upset as she wished it was her (first red flag) she had just gone through a break up so I put it aside and gave her advice.
Leading up to my kitchen tea she knew I was very busy running around organising the day of and she never asked me if I needed help, or any of the other bridesmaids. The day before she asked me where the venue was and complained she had no money for an uber in which I told her I can help arrange a lift. After 3 months of planning I was offended she didn’t even know where the venue was (invite was also sent months before) however, I let it go.
The morning of I let her know the other bridesmaids will help set up and if she wanted to come and assist and take photos- she ended up turning up 45 mins late and apologised. I let it go.
After my bridal shower she cried saying she felt left out by the other girls and she feels like a bad friend. I had reassured her they just were helping me and I apologies for her feeling this way.
Moving on to my hens - before my hens she explained she felt everything was expensive and I told her I understand if she can’t make it and let her know to prioritise her relationship. I am a very understanding friend and I said we can do dinner another time. She took this the wrong way and started crying that I do not want her there. This emotionally was exhausting before my wedding and hens.
It also didn’t help my bridesmaids complained to me about her letting me know what a complainer and terrible friend she was. It was exhausting and worried me a lot before the wedding.
She was fine on the wedding day however, after my wedding she has now been exhausting. We arranged a group dinner and I went with a friend to have a smoke and she sent me a needy text saying “if you’re going to leave the table I’m leaving”.
This tipped me over.
AITA for never speaking to her again after this? I put her emotions first and gave her so much reassurance leading up to my wedding, hens & events & I didn’t expect much but just some maturity.