AITAH for rejecting sex toys as a Christmas gift?

My boyfriend (46M) and I (29F) have been dating for a year now, and for whatever holiday/birthday/milestone we’ve celebrated together, we’ve made an effort to get each other personalized, thoughtful gifts. We also both suck at keeping things a surprise, so we normally tell the other what we’re getting them.

This year my boyfriend was so excited about “my” Christmas gift that he wanted to show me as soon as he ordered it. Last night he showed me that he’d purchased a bunch of high-end, ridiculously priced (IMO) sex toys and lingerie. He spent an upwards of $1k in total. I don’t mind him spending his money as he chooses, and I guess on some level, I’m grateful that he wanted to buy so much for my gift, but in the moment, I felt annoyed that this was what he chose for me.

For starters, virtually every single toy he purchased is geared toward anal sex in some way. Lube, butt plugs, dildos, training kits, etc. I’ve been on the fence about trying anal, and he really wants to try it, so he decided to buy all of this to help persuade me to get into it. Another thing is I do not like wearing lingerie. At all. If I ever wear something like it, it’s because I want to look sexy for him, not because I enjoy it myself. He knows this, and he even admitted that that part of my gift was more for him. Lastly, we’ll be spending Christmas with my family this year, who always does a kind of gift-unwrapping thing together, so obviously, I’m not going to be able to open any of this shit around them. I asked him about that, and if he’d even considered getting me some G-rated gifts to open around them, and he said that we could recycle some old gifts we’d received from friends previously “for show.”

All in all, I was pretty pissed off that this was what my boyfriend had planned for me, and I told him that I didn’t want gifts like these that were mostly meant for him. He said I’m being ungrateful and selfish for not wanting a gift that both of us can share. AITAH here?