Is it really so inconceivable that a man might not fancy Vanja?

The tell-all is crazymaking right now, as everyone is slam-dunking on Bozo for not 'giving it a try' with Vanja. Vanja complaining that he wouldn't hug or kiss her. Adnan saying that he cannot understand why he couldn't possibly be attracted to Vanja. Loren calls him Bozo the clown (how original). Sanela is hysterical that he wouldn't even try.

All of this drama BEFORE that text from his ex, which does muddy the waters and make him look sketchy (but there could be another explanation). I'll start with the disclaimer that I do think Bozo led her on a little bit online, which isn't okay. But after that, I think Vanja just saw what she wanted to see out of Bozo and then pursued him without really checking if he was that into her. When she got to Croatia, he was shocked that he wasn't into her.

Here's the thing. It's normal for people of any gender to not have chemistry with someone else. But for some reason, a large chunk of society would think that straight men would instantly try to bang Vanja because she's blonde and has a good body. Adnan straight up can't understand that Bozo simply might not be into her. In fact, no one on the stage seems to be able to get it through their skulls that he might simply not fancy her. Would that be so hard to fathom? Is Vanja herself really so shocked that a guy might not fancy her?

I'll end with more disclaimers that his attempt at answering Adnan when asked the question "Why didn't you try to be with her" was absolute horseshit: "I think she's out of my league so I'm being respectful". Fuck off. If someone 'out of your league' shows interest in you, you would most likely go along with it. I think that was his pre-planned way to answer that question, because it's not modelled to us to just say "I just don't fancy her", "I just don't feel chemistry".

And the text from the ex/his quick exit... Maybe he had this other woman that he didn't want to cheat on at the time. So perhaps he did fancy Vanja after all, but wasn't available, and so awkwardly tried to end things. That may be true. But my point still stands, that it shouldn't be so hard to believe that Vanja simply fancied him way more than he fancied her. I'm a straight man about Bozo's age and I don't fancy her, so I can see why he wouldn't either. IMO, if this was the case, he did the right thing by not leading her on further when she got to Croatia. People are treating him like shit at the tell all because he DIDN'T put the moves on her.

The whole thing is crazy, because I struggle to see what they find so hard to understand about it.